Friday, February 17, 2012

Does your belly fat make you crazy?

Date: 17 Feb 2012
Source: faboverfifty.com
Does your belly fat make you crazy?

Being FOF comes with so many great things--wisdom, levity, experience, humor.....And one not-so-great thing: belly fat.

So we paused in the middle of our daily sit-up regimen to speak with Dr. Michael Kaplan, one of the nation’s foremost experts on weight loss. Dr. Kaplan revealed the truth behind belly fat over fifty--why it’s there, what you can do about it, and why you should stop obsessing.

FOF: We hear it from FOFs all the time: ‘It’s so much harder for me to lose weight now, and I’m gaining in my belly area. What can I do?’
Dr. Kaplan: The unfortunate consequence of aging--for everyone--is that your metabolism slows by about 5-10 percent per decade. When women hit menopause, it slows an additional 5-10 percent. Many women spend their lives at a normal BMI [body mass index] of 23 or 24, and then they hit menopause and find themselves at a BMI of 27 or 28--ever so slightly overweight. And they can’t take off the pounds. Also, the body is programmed during menopause to lay down extra subcutaneous fat in the abdomen. So even if you’ve never had fat in your abdomen, all of a sudden you have a belly.

Ack. Why do our bodies suddenly put fat in the middle?
We don’t know, but it’s universal. It’s just kind of in our DNA that this is going to happen to a woman when she hits menopause.

Can you get rid of it?
Yes. But the truth is, a woman has to work really hard to get rid of it. First, you have to exercise more. Even if you went your whole life at a normal weight and you exercised, you have to start adding exercise as you approach menopause. I see patients who have never exercised in their lives, and then they start menopause and suddenly have to start in order to maintain their bodies. The average recommendation for a woman to really be doing well at this age is 5 hours per week.

That’s a lot of hours.
It absolutely is. In all studies I’ve ever read, you have to do about three hours a week to lose weight, but after menopause, it is definitely harder.

What about diet?
A woman’s metabolism once she hits menopause--if she’s normal weight--is usually about 1300 calories a day. That means she’s burning about 1300 calories every day, so she has to eat 1300 calories to maintain her weight. It’s pretty hard to lose weight at that rate, because you have give up 3500 calories to get rid of just one pound.

How do you give up 3500 calories if you can only eat 1300?!
It’s over time! So if you ate 1000 calories a day, you would lose 1 lb every 12 days. It’s really discouraging for a lot of women, and we usually see them after they’ve gone on multiple commercial programs and the weight isn’t coming off. Or it’s coming off so slowly that they’re discouraged...

What’s your approach?
As doctors, we have the advantage that we can prescribe a low-calorie diet. Anything under 1000 calories per day has to be medically prescribed--by law. We prescribe nutraceuticals--low calorie shakes, bars and soups that are made according to the same standards as pharmaceuticals. Each one is 160 calories and patients consume 5 daily. A woman can temporarily use these to get back to her pre-menopausal weight. While she’s doing that, we’re working on the behavioral issues that are going to keep the weight off long term.

So that helps you speed up the initial weight loss, but what’s the long-term strategy?
We try to figure out a day-to-day routine, Monday through Friday, where she can eat about 1100 calories a day. We’ll come up with meal options and an exercise plan. If we do that, we’re banking about 2000 calories for the weekend, so she can relax and go out on Saturday and Sunday. We also address the psychological issues--that’s a huge part of this. We help women figure out their triggers---what causes them to overeat.

If someone ups her exercise and changes her diet and deals with her psychological issues, is it possible that she still won’t lose her belly fat?
Yes. Often, a part of this isn’t going to go away. These fat cells develop and get bigger during menopause. You can make them smaller, but you can’t get rid of them completely. If you get down to the weight you’re happy at, but you still have belly fat that’s bothering you, I might suggest surgery. Liposuction would actually get the cells out. I recommend that as a last alternative.

It sounds like you’re saying, in a nutshell, if you want to want to completely lose that belly, you’re going to need to make it--and your weight--a major focus of your life.
Right, it has to become a battle that you’re fighting everyday.

Do you ever suggest that women just accept the extra pounds around their middles and stop obsessing?
You know, I have said that to people. There was a study published in the Archives of Internal Medicine a few years back that said women actually live the longest with a BMI of 27-28 over age 70. But what we run into is people who are used to having a certain look. And if you spend your whole life with a BMI of 24 or 25 and now you’re 27 or 28, psychologically you don’t feel right.

Are there certain foods that trigger belly weight?
I wish I could say yes to that question, because it would make things easier, but really, there aren’t. I will say that if you are insulin resistant you probably will feel hungrier and eat more when you eat carbohydrates. It’s not the carbs themselves, it’s how your body reacts to them. Many people have that problem.

How do you know if you’re insulin resistant?
If you’ve been diagnosed with PCOS, diabetes or pre-diabetes. Also, there’s a medical test we can do, but I came up with a test that anyone can do at home: One morning, eat 200 calories of carbs for breakfast--an English muffin with jelly, for example. Write down the time you eat and then the time when you feel hungry again. The following day, eat 200 calories of fat and protein for breakfast--2 eggs with a small amount of cheese, for example. Again, write down when you eat, and when you feel hungry again. If you find that you are hungry an hour or two earlier on the carbohydrate day, you’re probably insulin resistant.

Is that something you can fix, or do you just need to avoid carbs?
It could get better. Sometimes losing weight actually makes the insulin resistance better. There’s also a medication called Metformin than can help the cravings--we use this often and patients don’t feel as hungry. And of course, if you just avoid those foods, then you won’t have those cravings.

Is there any way to lose weight specifically in the belly area?
No. That’s a huge myth. If you lose weight, you lose fat everywhere. A pound of fat comes from every fat cell in your body--they all shrink a little bit.

I’ve heard there’s a connection between stress and belly fat. Is this true?
Stress is absolutely related to gaining weight, but not specifically in the belly. The stress response--secreting cortisol and epinephrine--does make us hungry and does make us crave food. Lack of sleep does the same thing. A lot of menopausal women have hot flashes and don’t sleep well as a result, which can make them hungrier the next day. So if you treat your menopause symptoms, you may experience weight loss as a result.

What about situps? Can those help get rid of your belly?
Another major myth. All sit-ups do is strengthen the abdominal muscles--they don’t get rid of fat. So in some cases they can actually make your abdomen look a little bigger. The ideal is to lose the fat and then strengthen the muscles to get definition.

So it sounds like there’s no magic bullet that gets rid of all belly fat.
Yes, but it’s not hopeless. People have definitely done it. The most important thing to recognize is that it is a factor of aging...it’s not anything you did wrong.

Related post: The Cavewoman diet

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Beautiful words

Source: Queenie chan

You don't need a pair of wings to fly...

Sometimes we need to take a break to prepare a better future…
Sometimes we need to play like a child to live a happier life…
Never loose a “child” in your heart
Be a “Happiness Independent”
Don’t expect others to give you happiness…
Set your soul free.
You don’t need a pair of wings to fly…

Try not to dislike.
Try to appreciate.
Try not to expect.
Try to accept…
Try not to judge.
Try to understand.
Try not to escapte.
Try to fix.
Try not to ask.
Try to give.
Try not to regret.
Try to live harder.
Try not to hold.
Try to let go.
Sometimes we need a break to prepare a better future. Set your soul free. Be a 'Happiness Independent'

Sometimes you are too nice that people take advantage of you…
Sometimes you don’t know how to say NO and people make use of your kindness…
Sometimes you have gien your love but people betray you…
Hurt you..
Misunderstand you…
Use mean words to stab you…
Take you for granted…
Sooner or later, you will learn your lessons…
“How could you?” you may wonder…
Dear,
No matter how bad you are hurt, you will recorver…
Always thank those who hurt you…
Always thank those who betray you…
Because they teach you how to move on..
Because without darkness, you won’t know what light is…
Don’t punish yourself with someone’s fault…
Keep your heart open for the future
Keep walking…
Love and Light is ahead of you
Keep smiling, I’m with you…
Live the best of your life…
Nothing can stop you but yourself…

Forget about your personal tragedy…
Think about the poor people..
With love, I’m willing to take the risk of getting hurt…
Some people don’t deserve my love, but some do.
Treasure what we have

No matter how bad you are hurt, you will recorver…

If it didn’t bring you joy,
Just leave it behind.
Let’s ring in the New Year,
With good things in mind.
Let every bad memory go
That brought heartage and pain.
And let’s turn a New Leaf,
With the smell of New Rain
Let’s forget past mistakes
Making amends for this year
Sending you these greetings
To bring you hope and cheer.

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Michelle Phan’s for Breakups

...we must move on from the past in order to fully appreciate the new beginnings...

Life is full of surprises. We never know what moments will inspire the next chapter of our own story. There’s a saying that we must move on from the past in order to fully appreciate the new beginnings. Starting over can be hard, but changes in life can only be possible when we no longer stand still. Change is sweet and can inspire us to try new things, especially when we’re moving on from something. I believe everything happens for a reason, good and bad. Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it’s happened. Holding on to regret can prevent you from living life to the fullest. If you allow it to happen, you may never know what you’re missing.

So keep your mind, heart and eyes open, and a new adventure will find you. Good luck!

Life is full of surprises. So keep your mind, heart and eyes open, and a new adventure will find you.

[Song of the day]  
......The Gate of Dawn - Secret Garden

Raise a toast to good times and welcome New Year with good friends and good cheers...
Wish you a good start for the New Year.

10 Success Secrets Bosses Never Tell You but Should

Date: 31 Jan 2012
Source: Cosmopolitan

... 10 Success Secrets Bosses Never Tell You but Should ...

No one knows better about making it big than Cathie Black, president of Hearst Magazines — Cosmo’s publisher. In her book, Basic Black: The Essential Guide for Getting Ahead at Work (and in Life), she shares her awesome tips for a kick-ass career.

The consequences of failure — just like the potential consequences of taking risks — are almost never as terrible as they seem.

1. Playing It Safe Can Backfire
Most people see taking risks as opening themselves up to unnecessary, maybe even dangerous chances. But the truth is, avoiding risks won’t keep you safe, nor will it guarantee a smooth ride at work or in life.

In fact, the opposite is often true. It’s like the monkey parable: A monkey sees a nut in a hole and reaches in to grab it. Once he’s closed his fist around it, he can’t get his hand back out of the narrow opening. Now he’s stuck. He can’t free himself unless he lets go of the nut, but because he’s afraid to lose it, he won’t let go.

Trying to avoid risks is like clinging to that nut. You may think you’re playing it safe by holding on to what you have, but in reality, you’re just hindering your own progress.

2. Failing = Success
The consequences of failure — just like the potential consequences of taking risks — are almost never as terrible as they seem. Just about anyone you can think of who’s a huge success has overcome failure to get where they are today — think of Michael Jordan, who was cut from his high school team, or J.K. Rowling, who was turned down by a number of publishers before one decided to take a chance on her manuscript about a young wizard named Harry Potter.

3. Heed the Two-Step Rule
Anyone can go the extra mile. Try to make a habit of taking the next step or two beyond what you’ve been asked to do.

A couple years ago, an article in one of Hearst’s magazines, House Beautiful, misidentified the legendary Estée Lauder chairman, Leonard Lauder.

In any office environment, there are many factors you can’t control... It would have been easy to get upset about the situation, but to what end?

Argh! It was an innocent mistake but an incredibly stupid one, and once I was told about it, I knew we needed to fess up immediately. It was a Friday before a holiday weekend. I got on the phone to Leonard’s office and learned from his assistant that he and his wife, Evelyn, were traveling in France. Hearing my desperation, the assistant gave me the number of his hotel in Paris.

“Leonard, I’m sorry,” I said. “And most of all, I’m embarrassed.” Leonard laughed and told me all was forgiven. And as he later told an interviewer for a magazine article profiling me, he was pleased I’d gone to the trouble of tracking him down to apologize.

4. Give Up Control...
Sometimes in any office environment, there are many factors you can’t control — the trickiest of which are often interpersonal. People get on each other’s nerves, step on each other’s toes, vie for each other’s jobs, and sometimes, at the other end of the spectrum, get inappropriately involved with each other. At one point much earlier in my career, I had a boss who was having an affair with a subordinate of his, an awkward situation that made all our lives more complicated. It would have been easy to get upset about the situation, but to what end? The only thing you can do is accept what you can’t change and work around it. That allows you to have a modicum of power over it.

5. Show Your Ignorance
The act of asking is one of the most important elements of success. All too often, people fear that asking questions reveals ignorance, yet the opposite is true. The root of the word ignorance, after all, is ignore. The minute you ask about something, you’ve taken a step toward understanding it. On the other hand, if you just ignore the fact that you don’t know, believe me, you won’t get away with that for long.

6. If You Think You Know the Answer, Check Again
There’s an old saying among journalists: “If your mother says she loves you, check it.” And in fact, you can be sure that the minute you take something for granted, it won’t be what you thought it was.

Take my name, for example. When I was in junior high, a skinny, awkward preteen with big dreams, I decided I wanted to be different. So one day, I changed the spelling of my name from Cathy to Cathie. Silly, I know...but what can I say?

I can’t tell you how many times over the years I’ve received letters addressed to Cathy Black or Kathy Black or Kathleen Black. It seems like a little deal, but it’s a big deal to me...and it’s the quickest way to lower my opinion of the letter writer.



7. Sometimes You Have to Boss Your Boss
When I watched the movie The Devil Wears Prada, one scene that stuck in my head was when the assistant, Andy, stood behind her boss Miranda’s shoulder at a party, whispering the names of guests as they approached. Smooth as satin, Miranda greeted each person, coming off as an attentive and caring hostess rather than the frosty, bored snob she really was. There’s no quicker, easier way to earn your boss’s respect and gratitude than helping her look good.


There’s an old saying among journalists: “If your mother says she loves you, check it.” And in fact, you can be sure that the minute you take something for granted, it won’t be what you thought it was.

8. Have a No-Surprises Policy
Never surprise your boss. If you have bad news, tell it. If you have good news, share it. For one thing, no one likes to feel out of the loop. And for another, hiding a crisis from someone who needs to know virtually guarantees the problem will be compounded. Think of your boss as a small woodland animal — make no startling moves or strange gestures. Do the work to make things easy on him or her.

9. Be a Little Naughty
Rule breaking is an underappreciated and underutilized skill. If you look at any list of highly successful people, it’s invariably populated with rule breakers — from college dropouts like Bill Gates to female trailblazers like eBay’s Meg Whitman to Internet wunderkinds like Google cofounders Sergey Brin and Larry Page, who refused to believe that a little startup couldn’t take on the biggest, richest companies in cyberspace. All these people trusted their ideas and themselves enough to know which rules they could break. You can do the same.

10. It’s Not PC, But Looks Count
The way you present yourself makes a huge difference in how people perceive you, and not just in a superficial way. People make judgments about your abilities, self-confidence, and savvy based in part on what you choose to wear and how you choose to carry yourself.


Never surprise your boss. If you have bad news, tell it. If you have good news, share it. For one thing, no one likes to feel out of the loop.

When I was just out of college and looking for my first job, I wrangled an interview at Condé Nast, then one of the biggest magazine-publishing companies in New York. I dressed in a nice, conservative suit and felt pretty good about how I looked — right up to the moment I stepped into the elevator at the Condé Nast building.

I immediately felt the penetrating gazes of half a dozen fashionably dressed young women as they looked me up and down, several of them clutching their Louis Vuitton bags. Suddenly, I felt like a complete hayseed. I couldn’t help but be self-conscious — exactly the opposite of how you want to feel going into an interview — and all because I hadn’t given enough thought that morning to how I should dress. The experience taught me a lesson I never forgot.

Karl's MEMO:
1. Failing = Success
2. Get up the controls.
In any office environment, there are many factors you can’t control. It's easy to get upset about the situation, but to what end?
3. If you think you know the answer, CHECK AGAIN.
When you take something for granted, it won't be what you have thought it was.
4. Never surprise your boss.
If you have bad news, tell it. If you have good news, share it.

5 office rules no one's told you yet

Date: 31 Jan 2012
Source: Yahoo Shine

................ 5 Office Rules No One's Told You Yet .................. 
By Gabrielle Frank
 

Showing up on time and being a hard worker aren't enough. To really succeed, you need to put these little-known (and seemingly counterintuitive) secrets to use...

Talk about a comeback. Mika Brzezinski was fired from her job as an anchor at CBS without warning...But it was only a matter of time before she was back on top — kicking major network butt on MSNBC's Morning Joe. In her new book,Knowing Your Value: Women, Money and Getting What You're Worth, Brzezinski shared with Cosmo the tips she used to climb back up the ladder — and how to use them to score yourself a raise.

Keep your friends close… And leave your co-workers at the office.

1. Don’t be afraid to piss people off.
When your boss asks you about the lateness of a project in a meeting, you call out your co-worker for missing a major deadline on it. Awkward, yes, but don't even think about apologizing to her post-meeting. If she wants to hold a grudge against you, let her — the fact is, she wasn't doing her job, and you called a spade a spade. "I've had meetings with people where I've repeated in my head, 'it doesn’t matter if she likes me,' and I've found that allows me to be exact, honest, and to give thought-out, unemotional answers," says Brzezinski. "It doesn't matter if your co-workers like you. If you are being productive and you're being valuable, your work adds to the equation of the company. You will stay there and you will thrive," she says.
 

2. Brag about your accomplishments first. Then ask for a raise.
Talking to your boss about a raise can be an uncomfortable conversation — just ask Brzezinski. She’s been there — and gotten shot down — a few times. Her secret weapon for success: a list. "Make a list of everything you do, how much time it takes, and what value it brings to the company. Research what people in your position at other companies make for their accomplishments. How much value do they bring to the table? Do you bring more, and why?" Use this list as the basis of your conversation with your boss, and then ask for your salary to be increased to reflect your value. If your request isn't met, don't get emotional about it. Use the information you prepared to update your resume so you can be ready to move on when an opportunity arises. And continue to be professional and do your best at work until you have a better offer.
 

3. Keep your friends close… And leave your co-workers at the office.
"You have colleagues. Get used to the word," advises Brzezinski. "They're not your friends. In tough, stressful, competitive industries, there aren't that many friends. Get over that." Cut the chit-chat on Gchat, the mid-afternoon coffee runs, or the hour-long let's-bitch-about-our-bosses lunch. You'll be amazed at how much you accomplish in one week. And the best part? You'll have more time to spend with your real friends — the ones who were there when you were unemployed and sleeping on their couches.
 

4. Remember business is business. It's not personal.
Your co-worker got chosen to lead a big project, while you're left sitting pretty on the sidelines. Wait until you get home to call your BFF and bitch. If you need to, go outside and scream. But remember, tomorrow offers a fresh start. "Don't let anything build up in your mind," says Brzezinski. "We constantly let clutter into our brains and it just builds up — and distracts us." Focus on the fact that while she's leading the project, you're still part of the team. Letting the resentment stew in your mind just makes you less able to do your best work.

Remember business is business. It's not personal.
5. Make yourself visible (and not just by wearing something red).
"Do you need to scream at the top of your lungs like a man and pound on the table? No," says Brzezinski. But you do need to find a way to call out your accomplishments. "Being excited about your work is great. Send an email to your boss about a goal that's been met or a deal that's been struck," she advises. Bring attention to yourself and don't feel uncomfortable about it. "You've got to find your own attractive way of communication." So whether it's an email, or a weekly meeting where you outline goals you've accomplished, be your own cheerleader, and your boss will think of you when it's time for a promotion


Karl's MEMO:
1. Don't be afraid to piss people off.
2. Keep your friends close. And leave your co-workers at the office.
3. Remember business is business. It's not personal.